Just Say NO...To Being A HO! - A Vixen Commentary...

♥ Wednesday, February 4, 2009 ♥


I know that sometimes it gets really hard when you are in a relationship and you're going through a dry spell or you are just meeting a guy and getting to know him and ya just itching to get him between the sheets...but I got the perfect remedy...MAKE DAT NIGGA WAIT!

Holding out can sometimes be the best thing that ever happened to a relationship, especially if you two are just getting to know each other, feeling each other out and are mutually attracted to one another. It's so easy to give into temptation but doing something as simple as NOT doing anything can benefit you in SO many ways. First, if you and he are in that "probation" stage where you are trying to discover each others likes, dislikes, turn-ons and so forth and you go at it without FULLY knowing what he likes (and doesn't!), you could fuck up during sex and attempt to do some shit that he ain't even into. Think about it, it can actually work either way. How would you feel if while he's pleasing you just right, hitting your spot and all that good stuff, he just decides to flip you over and try to ENTER the EXIT door when thats something you are absolutely AGAINST! If you two REALLY get to know each other and WAIT, you can discover things about each other that can actually enhance your lovemaking sessions.

During the mean time, drive his ass crazy by flirting with him! Challenging him! Running your foot up and down his leg from across the table in the cafeteria, whispering nasty fantasies in his ear or over the phone or even heavy petting and stopping short of sex can cause his attraction to you to soar to new heights all the while giving you full control of the situation. Prolonging sex can be the ultimate aphrodisiac and can spice up the relationship. Sex isn't the only way to make a man pay attention...not giving it up and telling him no can make his ass JUST as attentive. Especially if he is one of those guys who is just too sexy for his own good and always gets his way when it comes to girls. You'd be presenting him with a card he ain't even know was in the deck!

By waiting, you can actually make the loving better by building up tension, sexual frustration and innuendo. Guys love the thrill of the chase and if you take that away from them, the game is just not as challanging. They love the chase because deep down their instincts and needs are very primal. Look at the animals in the wild. They love to hide in the tall grass or hidden in darkness, stalking their prey, sniffing their scent and practically tasting their flesh on their lips long before they've even taken a bite. And once they chase them down and tear into them, they enjoy the fruits of their labor THAT much more. It wouldn't be as fun or enjoying for them to just stumble on an already dead carcass.

Men are the same way...even though they bitch and whine, waiting is actually better for them AND YOU in the long run. Because when they FINALLY get you where they want you (because they swear they in control! LOL!) they really bring the thunder because of all of that waiting and the sexual frustration thats been building for however long. They try to fuck you SO good (and you return the sentiment) because you both know you have been missing each other sexually and have both been wanting this for what seems like forever. If you have never been intimate with him, he'll think THAT much more of you for making him WAIT and WORK for it. He'll fuck you that much better because he's gonna want to impress you, give you something that you'll want again and again and rave to your girlfriends about. Remember ladies: The first rule of Economics clearly states, "There's no such thing as a free lunch!" So y'all gotta stop letting these niggas eat for FREE! AND DA VIXEN SAID DAT!